Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult things one can go through in life. It can be even more difficult when the death is due to the negligence of another person. The pain one feels after the death of a loved one can be increased by feelings of confusion and anger, which leads to a satisfactory outcome even more difficult.
Some tips to deal with the loss of a loved one:
Let the advocates handle the legal avenues:
The family will have enough in their mind after the loss. Let the lawyers take responsibility for handling the legal aspects to eliminate the unnecessary stress of the family. That allows the family to focus on other important things to heal faster. The family should be available to answer questions and help the lawyers, but the first thing is to focus on eliminating the deep pain.
Seek professional help
The emotions one feels after the death of a loved one are not typical emotions that one feels every day. They are feelings that are profound – one is confused, sad, angry, one does not know how to handle pain. It is important to seek professional help to deal with the pain and despair that you may feel after an event such as an unjust death. One should go to therapeutic visits or go see a counselor, they are ways that one can use to minimize pain. Professional doctors can help you understand what warning signs to take into account for you and your family members, along with techniques on how to avoid the daily triggers that will delay your healing process.
Do not rush the process
There is no timeline for the process of overcoming the death of a loved one. Each situation is different just like each affected person. You must be patient, it is also important to keep in mind that there will be fluctuations with respect to the way you feel. As time passes one can feel that it is progressing and the next day can return to the starting point. Patience and diligence are key to moving forward in the long term.
Pay special attention to children’s behaviors
The pain that one feels does not have measures with respect to the age, each person of the family can feel the pain and the sadness of a tragedy at different level. Many times children do not have the emotional preparation to deal with these tragic events, and that is why sudden and inexplicable changes in their behavior can arise. If children begin to change their behavior it is very important to pay attention.
- Isolation: Many children who have suffered a loss, even those who are usually outgoing, will resort to seclusion. They will withdraw from normal activities, reject opportunities to socialize with friends and family, and constantly try to locate themselves in situations where they will be alone.
- Self-destructive behaviors: This type of behavior may include skipping school, underage drinking, and drug experimentation. Unfortunately, this behavior can also include trying to hurt yourself physically. This is the kind of behavior that, if noticed, should be addressed professionally as soon as possible.
- Revert to past behaviors: This is mainly seen in younger children who suffer an unfair loss. They will return to their old habits, such as demanding that they hold them or throw tantrums at them. This type of outburst can be seen as normal and can not be controlled by parents, leading to long-term development problems.
Many families will try to manage children’s pain on their own, considering it their responsibility to repair the emotional damage caused by the event while they themselves are also trying to heal. This is where professional help is necessary. Children are extremely resistant, but putting them in the best situation to heal should always be the number one priority.